It is here, the time of year when people are simultaneously at their most cheerful and most cranky.
The holidays can alternately inspire cheer, dread, anxiety, happiness, depression...and often all to the same person in the same day.
I love the gathering together of loved ones, the generousity the season inspires and all the good food.
I dread the crowds, the cranky people having to deal with those crowds & the worries of the season, and the inescapable financial concerns the holidays bring with them.
But I'm hopeful this year, because my first encounter with holiday crowds last night, albeit very brief, was a positive one.
If doing a good deed, even a minor one, makes you feel this good, why aren't we doing them all the time? Why do we do mean things at all, when doing the opposite has such great consequences? Why, oh why, is it easier to be naughty then nice in the spur of the moment? Why is it harder to reign in the negative things and harder to do positive stuff?
For me personally, I am a procrastinator, so I am queen at justifying why I won't be doing something good just yet. There's always the "I'll donate when I have more money" "I'll do that tomorrow when I'm not so busy with my life" etc etc ad nauseum.
But every once in awhile, I can trick my brain into doing something good before my evil half can rationalize my way out of it.
Last night I had to make a brief stop at the grocery store for pop (aka carbonated beverages for all you non-Minnesotans). God forbid the Big B should run out of Mountain Dew!
Okay, okay, or myself for that matter.
As I whip into a parking spot, I immediately notice the concern on the faces of the people surrounding the car parked opposite from me. It's apparent that something is wrong with their silver Grand Am. I see two ladies and some smaller heads in the backseat, indicating there are probably children in there somewhere.
Before my brain can get time to think about how much stuff I have to do at home and how I just want to run this errand & be done with it, my mouth opens as I open my car door and asks "Do you need a jump?"
They sure did. I open my hood and the trunk, take out the nice set of jumper cables my dad insisted I always keep in my car since I first began driving, and prepared to Do Good.
A young man, seeing a group of ladies around a pair of open engines, also offers to help, which I accept gratefully because I can never remember what order you're supposed to place the cables & whether the car should be running first or not.
In less than 5 minutes, their Pontiac is started and I'm on my way inside the store to complete my errand.
"Happy Thanksgiving!"
"Bless you, we didn't know how we were going to work this out if our friend's car couldn't get to us in the lot."
"Thank you!"
Their relief is palpable and the goodwill is almost visible. The surprise that a stranger, no,
two strangers, would jump in & help without being asked has left their voices, and instead you can hear the warmth.
I can't keep the grin from my face the entire time I'm in the store, and when I run into the young man inside who helped out, I thank him for his help and we share a brief smile.
If all it takes is something this small, this simple, this easy, to feel so good, why aren't I doing this all the time?
Happy Thanksgiving everyone. May you find yourself Doing Good when the opportunity presents itself, whether by fortune or because you seek it out.